Being kind to yourself

The grief you can feel when you lose a loved one can be difficult to navigate, and unique to you and the person you have lost.

Taking care of yourself and of other family members and friends is important; equally important is knowing when to reach out for support for yourself.

There are many organisations that offer advice and  bereavement support to people of all ages, both locally in Kent and Southeast London, and nationally across the UK.

Our simple self-care tips and links to helpful organisations are here to help you in your time of need.

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The importance of self-care

During periods of grief, it can feel difficult to undertake the most basic tasks, yet creating some structure and routine in your day can help. Here are some of our suggestions to help you give yourself the care you need:

  • Keep to your basic daily routine
  • Eat and drink fluids regularly
  • Keep taking your usual medication (if relevant), making a note of when each time
  • Take gentle and regular exercise
  • Sleep when you feel tired
  • Carry out basic chores, like washing up
  • Walk the dog or walk with a friend
  • Ask friends and family for help with shopping or going to appointments
  • Don’t be hard on yourself, and allow yourself to grieve
  • Speak to your GP or your counsellor for help

Create some calm in your day

It can be useful to try different ways to create calm in your day when navigating grief, to help process thoughts and relax your body. The following activities might be useful:

  • meditating using apps like Headspace and Calm
  • journalling or writing poetry
  • crafting or painting
  • practicing Yoga to release tension
  • gardening or growing plants from seed

Work with your employer

Speak with your employer about their policy on compassionate leave. It is important to be honest about how you are coping and to liaise with your GP if you need time off work, or to arrange a staggered return.

Access national helplines and organisations

Sharing your grief with family and friends can be difficult, so you may like to turn to a national helpline or specialist organisation for support and advice

You don’t have to cope on your own

Support groups can provide a safe environment in which you can share your feelings and memories with others experiencing a similar journey to you. These include:

●       Local hospices

●       Hospital support groups

●       Local churches

●       Local counsellors – find one through the British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy

●       Your GP

Ask our team in your local branch for more information on support groups.

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Online social groups and support

There are local support groups offering online contact with other people who are experiencing grief

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